If there’s a genre of song more insidious than the Song For Women, it’s something like the Song For Men About Women. The Song For Men About Women is a song that tells men what is wrong with female behavior, in language that the majority of men, one would hope, would never dream of using in front of the woman whose behavior is being criticized.
In this week’s New York Times, music critic Jon Caramanica takes on The Song For Men About Women, in a piece that admittedly tries to go beyond the Man Explains trope, but ultimately falls victim to it. (Criticism of The Song For Men About Women is important no matter the perspective, of course.) Caramanica dissects both "Loyal," the inescapable Chris Brown single, and "Cut Her Off," a track by Atlanta rapper K Camp. The "Loyal" hook, which Grace Gordon mentioned on this site not too long ago, goes like so: "When a rich nigga want ya/ And your nigga can't do nothing for ya/ These hoes ain't loyal/ These hoes ain’t loyal." On "Cut Her Off," K Camp sings, "It ain't nothing to cut that bitch off/ So what you saying, ho?/ You know I'm the man, ho."
"Plenty of pop is corrosive in one way or another," writes Caramanica, "and hip-hop and R&B radio is a cornucopia of tough sex talk, aggressive seductions and more. But outright five-alarm misogyny has become increasingly rare. In the Drake era, especially, emotional accountability is at a premium and not a sign of outsiderness.